IN YOUR LIFETIME AS A WOMAN, HAVE You ever passed up a fine, young  man who was winking and flirting with you and asked you out, but you turned him down because you just knew he was far too young for you?   And when you looked at him, the thought of having to burp him crossed your mind?   Well, in this day and age and with the shortage of men going on, it is becoming more and more common to hear about and see older women, even in their sixties, dating younger men. And there is no shame in their game!

          I AM ALWAYS HAPPY TO HEAR about women well into their 40s, 50s and up, who are getting additional loving.  After all, it has always been acceptable In this society for an old geezer to date or marry a woman who could easily be mistaken for his daughter or granddaughter.  I have seen old guys at the club, proudly flaunting their young tender things, who they would like to believe truly loves them and thinks that his wrinkles are sexy and the fact that he still can dance like James Brown is a plus!  The women their age, have to sit back and watch and hope some older guy will at least say hello to them.  In this society, even if the older woman is far more attractive than the younger woman, and has kept everything right and tight, the younger woman most likely will still  get over, primarily because she has not been on the planet as long!
       THE OLDER GUYS ARE TOO stupid to realize that the younger she looks, the older he looks.  What are nice, seasoned women supposed to do, especially if they have outlived their husbands, who really consumed the best years of their lives? Should they forget about sex and love because the men in their age group are no longer checking for them?
      WHAT ARE OLDER WOMEN supposed to do if men their equal are busy trolling the school yards for hot girls?  The answer is…..for a lot of older women….date a younger man!  Black women life span statistically is longer than the male, therefore women should date or marry younger men, because you know he still has some life left in him and he most likely will not die before you (not unless you shoot him) and make you a widow.  There are far more widows out here than widowers.  Most widowers are grabbed up practically during the funeral service for the dear departed wife!
              I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW OFTEN I HAVE HEARD WOMEN SAY that their old man ain’t what he used to be and barely gives great phone or great sex.  They are usually too tired or just can’t remember what’s up!  The real drawback to dating a younger man can be that he is not as financially stable.  But if the sex is cool and the young man seems to really care and ain’t in “pimp mode,”or has a prison record and is willing to share what little he has; and you have other things in common such as reading, computers, dancing, theater, church etc., give him a chance to love you!   I say ladies, broaden your horizons and look at a tenderloin more closely.  The economics may not be just right, but if you’re both in the same mind set, your feelings in sync, and he has plenty of common sense and good conversation, then it is worth a shot!

 ain’t in “pimp mode”


About stellafoster

Stella Foster is a retired columnist writer who has contributed to the Chicago Sun-Times for 43 years. Well known for the trailblazing path she has created for other columnist writers and her fearlessness, candor, and strong principles while covering the most entertaining stories relating (but not limited) to, celebrities, community events, and black-on-black crime.

Posted on July 22, 2014, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. Love my Stella’s words! Especially on the subject of younger men older ladies. Thank you Stella!
    Been there done that. Most men that are same age do not get it that we have needs also .

  2. Heyyy!
    I say go for it.. After all, “your Life is yours to enjoy, and no matter how good it is to you, you can’t take it with you when you’re dead & gone. And Btw, what left behind, others will enjoy.. Trust me. 😉

  3. Right on Suz.. But some of us do.. PS: You can recognize us by the smiles on our faces. 😉

  4. Kim David tetzloff

    i would love to hang with you, girl!

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